Why You Can’t Change Your Gender

Man and Woman

(Content Warning: This post deals with mature themes of sexuality and sexual orientation)

Oh National Media, how we love thee for thy spotlight shining on issues here today and gone tomorrow. Directing our attentions by saying “Squirrel!” and the populous running to that story like a dog from Pixar’s UP. This most recent direction of Vanity Fair’s Magazine Cover has created quite the stir. The story isn’t surprising really, as it addresses fundamental questions regarding who we are.

You Can Change Your Biological Sex

While the U.S. is in awe of the physical change that has been wrought in and through this individual, fiery arguments have developed as to what to call Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner. Who he is. What his legal name now is. And so forth and so on. What is not disputed by either parties, is that he is biologically, now a female.

Thanks to science, it is possible to accomplish incredible things. Biological 3-D printing is opening up transplants with the possibilities of no patient rejection. We understand more of our creation than ever before. But with that understanding in a fallen world, we’ve seen twisting of application of science- like the person we see today.

Ever since Roe v. Wade, society has operated under the impression that people have rights over their own bodies to any extreme. Scripturally however, this body-owning mindset could not be further from the truth. We are but stewards of the physical shells in which we have been given. Granted, from a Christian perspective, this truth is simple to grasp. It is communicating this truth to the world is what has been and always will be- a difficult task.

You Can’t Change Your God-Given Gender

The truth of the issue is that each one of us was created by God with a specific gender in mind. That is, one’s soul apart from their biological shell. Society would say the first is dependent upon the other. The Bible says otherwise. In heaven it is said there will be women and there will be men. Yet, we will be as brothers and sisters. Will who we are in heaven be determined by our current biological setup when we die? Of course not.

One can certainly be a male or female anatomically. Yet, that can in no way determine whether our soul is that of a man or a woman. Our God created soul transcends the mere body in which we live. Our body will eventually be cast away and rot like everything else in this world regardless of whether or not we change core bodily functions or appearances.

That’s why a person can change their bodily appearance all they want, yet still be like what Christ said- a tomb inside. They are still that same lost, desperate, and hopeless individual. Trying to find meaning in things which will not satisfy. Trying make an impact in a manner which won’t last.

I’d challenge you not to get lost in the physical particulars like so many have, but to look deeper into the personal struggles which this person and so many others face. We have a huge opportunity here to be shining examples of Christlike compassion and boldness. Let’s not squander it arguing about what bra size Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner wears.


Why Conviction Isn’t Enough

Walking in the Spirit Conviction

I’m finding more and more people living “According to their Conviction” these days. It seems to be the new phrase that has replaced “I’m free in Christ” or at least, become a matching phrase meaning the essentially same thing. Many people live according to conviction.  This is good, as we are free in Christ to live apart from sin. We are to be free from this sin, not to desire things which are unlawful, and yet also not live with a spirit of legalism. The one extreme “I can do anything I want” to the other extreme “I must still keep the Torah to be clean” are flawed mindsets which must be overcome if we are to properly live walking in the Spirit.

Nevertheless what does the Scripture say? “Cast out the bondwoman and her son, for the son of the bondwoman shall not be heir with the son of the freewoman.” So then, brethren, we are not children of the bondwoman but of the free. Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.  ~Galatians 4&5~

So often in our lives though we mix up, or at least do not properly reconcile, what it means to live according to the “Conviction of the Spirit” Paul speaks of in Romans and Galatians. There are clear evidences of what living according to your heart’s desires looks like. There are also clear evidences of what Spirit given Conviction looks like. What we must not do, is be deceived into thinking our sinful heart’s desires are biblical convictions given by the Holy Spirit.

For if we mix the Spirit’s conviction with our heart’s desire, then we will stray into sin over and over. Because we all know, the heart is incredibly deceitful. 

What are the evidences then? How can we be sure that we are walking that straight and narrow path of honoring Christ with our whole being? Well, one reason I love Paul, is he was a list guy. Like me. In the book of Galatians he outlines in detail, what evidences of the spirit and heart (flesh) look like.

Now the works of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, moral impurity, promiscuity, idolatry, sorcery, hatreds, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambitions, dissensions,factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and anything similar. I tell you about these things in advance—as I told you before—that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, we must also follow the Spirit. 

Honestly, the evidences are quite clear. One I think is the most prevalent or at least, see most often, is selfish ambitions. Selfishness can be contrived and drawn up in many different ways to look like it is in fact, not so. Which takes us back to the core of ourselves- what does the heart look like? Is it meek and submissive? Is it selfless and honoring to others? We can only truly know our hearts when we line up our actions and true desires with scripture’s standards.

Which brings me to the last bit of this post… What are our standards? What does it mean to live according to conviction by the spirit practically? Remember that passage when the Priests came and questioned Jesus? (paraphrasing here) They asked Him incredibly insincerely  “Great teacher, what is the greatest commandment?” to which Christ replied brilliantly, per usual, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, and strength. The second is like it- love your neighbor as yourself. Upon these rest the rest of the Law.” There, in plain black and white, is our standard. Is what we are doing in Love of the Lord, AND in Love of all others. It is such a simple, yet quite challenging truth. If what we are doing is out of a genuine Love for the Lord first, then others. You will be following the commandments the Lord has set in place.

Finally, here’s the bottom line I’ve concluded about this topic- If a conviction does not align with greatest commandments, you’re doing it wrong. And that wrongness should be changed- not based on what feels right, but what is known to be true. Then, and only then, will one be able to live according to the convictions Paul speaks of over and over. Convictions serving not the flesh, but the Spirit, glorifying Christ.

What Do You Want In Life?

 Bread of Life

I was reading a passage of scripture the other day, just really browsing the gospels like I usually do in my time of study. Reading bits and pieces, and came across this well known tale. I decided to read it again, and a revelation struck me which I wanted to share with you.

A woman of Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, “Give Me a drink.” 8 For His disciples had gone away into the city to buy food. Then the woman of Samaria said to Him, “How is it that You, being a Jew, ask a drink from me, a Samaritan woman?” For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.
Jesus answered and said to her, “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is who says to you, ‘Give Me a drink,’ you would have asked Him, and He would have given you living water.” The woman said to Him, “Sir, You have nothing to draw with, and the well is deep. Where then do You get that living water? Are You greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well, and drank from it himself, as well as his sons and his livestock?”
Jesus answered and said to her, “Whoever drinks of this water will thirst again, but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life.” The woman said to Him, “Sir, give me this water, that I may not thirst, nor come here to draw.”

From John 4

This, while just one of the rich stories of John, stood out to me while reading it like it never had before. I knew the setting, the backstory, the reason the woman was there all alone… etc. etc. I imagine if you like me- a Christian having been steeped in bible stories like this for years, the shiny newness of these tales has a propensity to wear off. This is unfortunate for us, and if we aren’t careful can create a feeling of boredom while going through a passage. I certainly know I’ve been guilty of that.

Anyway, this passage struck me in a new way this time. Because I didn’t so much look at the setting, but rather analyzed the speech. It is clear Christ is speaking spiritually, while the woman is speaking physically. She’s like “Give me this water so I don’t have to come to the well anymore!” Not having to do this would save her the shame of being reminded she is an outcast due to divorce, and that she would not have to endanger herself every time she needed water. In short, a never ending supply of water meant safety and a life of ease.  That’s what she wanted. At first.

Christ redirected her though and clarified what he was saying in a way only the Son of God could. Incredibly, she understands and goes into the city immediately to tell others about Him. Her wants were satisfied in the true Living Water, which is of course Christ. How often do we want what that woman wanted. Easy living, a safe environment (physically and emotionally), acceptance among peers… We all have wanted those things. It made me ask, do I want Christ? I’ll ask you the same…

Do you want Christ?

Because I’ll be honest here. I say “I want Christ” but then in my mind add “And some comfort along with a side of success.” I’m sure we all speak “Yes! I want Christ!” but so often that statement comes with unspoken qualifications and concerns. At least the woman at the well was up front in what she wanted… ;)

I guess what I’m trying to say, and what I took away from the passage, was this- If you want Christ, with all of your being, you’ll want for nothing. Not to say that desires for stuff, relationships, success, etc will cease. No. They won’t, because in the right place, these are good things! What I mean is, when you want Christ, when you are sustained and fulfilled by His purpose, His sustenance, and His life, all that other stuff will just be frosting on the cake.

So, as you go throughout your day and this week, I’d encourage you to figure out what you truly want in life. Is it Christ? Or is it something else?

I Know Your Secret Identity

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Almost everyone has a secret identity today. This identity appears all over the world, many times a day, many places at once. It can be similar to the real individual, or completely different as a whole. They can be this person one moment, and become who they really are in the next. Have you guessed what it is yet? Your secret Identity is who you are online.

The internet has changed life as we know it, but more that than, it has changed people as we know them. How they communicate, interact, and behave have all been effected by this world uniting tool. With the development of social media, people today- you and I, have developed identities which we wish to convey to those who “Follow” us.

More often than not in my experience, I’ve seen these identities completely different than who the person is in real life. They live a double life, with a secret Identity. They praise their parents in person, then mock them in a post. They speak with grace and humility in person, but type with harshness and pride in online debates.

I’m sure you know of these people. Or if you’re like me, even thought to yourself “Yup, I’ve done that sometimes”. Thing is, to a point, we all have a  secret identity online. It is amazing how much control we have over how people view us and what we let them see as reality. Is it any wonder people love places like Facebook, Twitter, G+, etc so much? It is a controlled environment where if you want, can keep yourself looking like an incredible saint. You create your identity based on what is important to you. That can be powerfully productive, but also potentially dangerous.

As with everything we do, we either do it for ourself, or for Christ. When we create ourselves online, we have the power to show who we are in Christ, just like in real life. The difference is, we choose what we show about ourselves. We can choose to be real, showing struggles and successes, or choose to be fake- showing everything we do right, and neglect the failures. We have the great opportunity and responsibility to be a living witness in the virtual world interacting with others, just like we do in the physical world.

Let’s make sure we are working to turn our secret identities into our true identities. Not the other way around.

 “Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth freshwater and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.
~James 3~”

Please, Don’t Be Yourself.

Just going to share a quick experience about a common theme the world tells us today. A while ago, a person talking about many life choices they had made, and all the bad things which resulted in those decisions. Financially, personally, and physically. They ended the story with- “Well, that’s just who I am, so it works I guess.”

I want to plead with you today- please. Don’t be yourself. We, as humans, as flawed creatures. Scripture tells us over and over we are obsessed with ourselves, and in that, utterly lost in our actions. Without Christ, ourselves will destroy each other. Think of the various literary works, both ancient and modern, which display this. The book of Judges in the bible- where there was no ruler and the people did as they pleased. The story of Narcissus, where he fell in love with himself and ultimately died. In fact, greek mythology is full of similar stories. The Little mermaid (the real version- not disneyified), who gave up everything because she felt she was supposed to be human for a prince- ultimately dies.

The list could go on for ages where we see people pursuing their own desires. Being themselves and embracing their human desires…. Always winds up in a terrible ending. Why is the world encouraging this? Because Satan is the master of all lies.

So I guess I’ll sum this up with this thought. The world tells everyone to “Be yourself” no matter what adverse affects it has on others. No matter how destructive yourself is. No matter how painful you make it to live your life. In contrast, the Bible tells us to die to ourself. And in doing so will live a life glorifying to Christ, which results in fruit that is a blessing to all whom we come in contact with.

Seems to me, the best option is pretty clear.

The Devil Made Me Do It!

Red Snake and REd Apple
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We’ve all heard it before haven’t we? I recently heard this phrase at work, and have been pondering it quite a bit the last few days. The phrase is used in movies, our culture, and in even in our life. The ulitmate blameshifter and justifier of sin.

“It’s not my fault! The devil made me do it!”

We shouldn’t be surprised really- the phrase has been around since the beginning of time. Eve was actually the first one to use it, albeit in a manner which sounds a little nicer…

And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”  The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” ~Genesis 3:13~

Even in the dawn of time, and sin freshly conceived, the Devil has been taking the brunt of blame for all kinds of sins which humanity commits on a day to day basis. Is it any wonder though he gets the blame? He is the father of all lies, the master of deception, and the prince of this fallen world. I think though, the Devil gets way to much credit for the sins going on in the world. People think he causes them to sin.

Trust me, we don’t need any help.

We are conceived, born, and live in sin. The idea the Devil makes us sin, puts him on a pedestal which he doesn’t deserve. He isn’t all powerful. He isn’t omniscient. He isn’t all knowing. He is a fallen angel who prowls the earth under God’s jurisdiction. Ultimately, he will be destroyed.

Why don’t we give credit to sin where credit is due? Probably because when we start rolling those credits, we see ourselves. Over, and over, and over. James tells us where sin comes from. It comes from our heart’s desires.

“Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.” ~James 1:13-15~

When Eve ate that fruit, she didn’t eat it because the Devil made her. She ate it because she wanted to be like God- at the expense of disobeying a direct command. She trusted herself more than God’s words. We do the same.

Does the Devil have a hand in this world? You bet your big black attack bible he does. But does he cause us to sin? No. He doesn’t. We are incredibly sinful beings, and when we sin- that comes from our heart and our choices. Let’s take responsibility for that and stop trying to push it off on Mr. Lucifer. He already has a huge ego- as do we. Humbling ourselves and owning our depravity is the first step to conquering our natural desires.

Care to take that first step with me?

Why Abortion is Acceptable

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I told myself I would never write about this topic. But today I saw one hateful picture to many. You know- the kind which sarcastically and hatefully tell you “If you got an abortion, Congrats! you just got away with murder.” Derogatory and demeaning pictures which tear a person down in their choices. No shown love, no sympathetic grace, no kind forgiveness.

Let me tell you why abortion is acceptable in our culture today.

The Problem isn’t Abortion

When you ask someone why Abortion is OK, and they are in favor of the action. They say “A woman has a right to choose.” or “Women have rights over their bodies.” etc etc. They don’t address the child inside the woman, because to them, it isn’t a child.

And that’s where the problem lies.

See, if everyone thought the children in a womb really were children, you would have to be devoid of any kind of conscience to actively support abortion. Indeed, I know people who are not Christians, but do not support this practice. Why? Because they believe it is a  living child. If one believes that the thing inside a woman’s body is a fetus without life, then why would it be wrong to remove it? The fact of reality, based on both scripture and science, is children are indeed alive when in a womb. However, the large majority people don’t recognize this.

Abortion isn’t a choice problem, it is a heart problem.

When I see these terrible pics, these destructive videos, and prideful posts condemning the people who have abortions- delighting in arguing with people who disagree with them, I am saddened. They aren’t focusing on the heart. They are focusing on the agenda. Until people are talked on a person to person level about the importance of the child, not their choice, things are not going to change. Not focusing on “proof”, but focusing on the individual’s situation.

Until love starts to be shown to people regarding this topic, we Christians are like it says in 1 Corinthians. How about we actively start engaging people in love, not through hateful pictures and internet arguments?

“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poorand give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.”

1 Corinthians 13:1-3

Alien Apocalypse: We Are Not Alone

Illustration from HG Welles "War of the Worlds"
Illustration from HG Wells’ “War of the Worlds”

The is my second, long overdue, response to the American Apocalypse obsession. Aliens are a word and concept everyone knows about. If you’ve read any sci-fi, or watched any movies, you’ll know Aliens can look like us… Or look like something which we dream about in our nightmares.

Why do Americans, even many professing Christians I talk to, embrace the idea of life on other planets? Why do some people believe Aliens will be returning soon to harvest the life they have planted? What does scripture have to say about this? I hope to adequately adress all these questions in the course of this article.

What is an Alien?

Let’s start with a foundation. What do we mean by Alien? What constitutes life on other planets? When I talk about aliens, and when many others do as well, usually the context is of sentient life. Sentient life is that which knows right and wrong, which has and holds to morals. Life which possesses a soul. If such life existed  it would destroy the credibility of scripture as we know it.

What Difference Does This Make?

So why worry about this ideology and mindset? I hold to the belief sentient life as we know it, on other planets, (ie Aliens) is not supported with science, nor scripture. One common belief which incorporates evolution is a long time ago, advanced aliens planted bacteria here and created a soup for life to grow in. This started the evolutionary chain, and thus solving the issue “how did life begin on earth”.

This belief puts faith in an unknown interstellar race for our origins. This belief takes just as much faith, if not more, than believing the biblical account of creation as shown in Genesis. Genesis is the foundation for the purpose of Christ, the state of man, and the state of this universe. Remove, or twist Genesis, and you have removed the cornerstone of what Christians believe, and all hope for redemption and a perfect ending to this world. The idea Aliens live somewhere else, planted us here for an unknown reason, and will be coming back to destroy most of us when we finish our task, is hopeless and sad.

One common thread I see when talking to some people who quite honestly believe this worldview, is the incredible amount of faith, or rejection of God, they have. Evidence comes not from science, but from YouTube Videos, the History Channel speculatory  series called “Ancient Aliens“, and blogs. To base a life truth off of youtube videos and such, especially ones involving conspiracies and fallacies like this, is like putting faith in a dinghy to make it safely across the ocean. Tragically foolish and unfounded.

Responding with Grace

Faith in Aliens as our creator, redeemer, and destroyer is based upon a desire to reject God with something more real and tangible. Even if that thing is evil or brings destruction. A valid and common question asked by those who believe this is regarding the size of the universe. Something so large has to be filled with other life. Right? Why else would it be so huge? Why would God create something so vast for one species?

One thing which makes me disheartened in the common professing Christian is when these questions are asked, they are offended and say something to the effect “I have faith” or, they confess they have no idea and that there might be truth in what the other says. I see this especially in the area of Space and Aliens. With Star Wars, Star Trek, and other popular series, believing life could exist elsewhere isn’t so hard to do when you don’t think about it. But in the words of Bill Jack-

“Too often Christians today are not only soft headed, but they are also hard hearted.”

This is one worldview we as Christians have to engage the culture in a way which is intelligent, yet kind. Scripture defends itself in this area. I’ll be honest, nowhere does it say “Sentient Life does not exist save for earth.” However, it does say a lot about the reason of the universe and why it exists like it does. In a future article I will adress these points more directly, with verses and answers. I challenge you in the mean time, to look up answers for yourself. To ask those hard questions like “Is it really so wrong to believe Aliens exist?” And come up with passages pertaining to that topic.

I’ll close with this. Just like the Zombie worldview, this belief of Aliens leaves people ultimately, without hope for a better life now, or in the future. Christ provides that hope, and that is always where we must guide every conversation in these areas of topics. Aliens are just a cover people wear to keep themselves from waking up. Sometimes, covers need to be ripped off, so the person sleeping will start their day. In the same way, these worldviews need to be exposed for what they truly are.

That is, unfounded on speculation and rejection of the life of hope found in Jesus Christ.

Why Do We Love Angry Birds?


Those pesky pigs… Thousands of slingshot pulls and hundreds of birds later, they are still stealing those eggs and wreaking havoc in the Angry Bird Universe. You’d think a more efficient technology would be developed…

With the introduction of smartphones into the 21st century culture and lifestyle, a new style of games and gaming have developed. It is called Casual Gaming, and has become a multi-million dollar industry full of games like “Angry Birds” “Cut the Rope” “Bejeweled” “Fruit Ninja” “Tiny Wings”and more.

And yes, I confess- All of these are on my iPhone.

I’ve been wondering lately, why do people love these games so much?

To be honest, I think these games are like the arcade games of past. Games like Pac-man, DigDug, Asteroids, Tetris, etc… Easy to learn, but always different, and always a better high-score to beat. We hear about our dads spending afternoons in the Arcade with friends playing all these games. The difference is for us today, we have them with us all the time.

Perhaps the reason people enjoy these games so much is their simplicity. The vast majority of the population is not a gamer which desires to use both thumbs, index fingers, and more simultaneously. Most don’t want to spend months in an in-depth story arch where you are immersed in a tale which rivals most movies. Most just want a simple, non-stressful way to enjoy themselves. Angry Birds does this.

Unlike In-Depth games, Casual games are simple to learn, often taking less than a minute to learn. They have no negative effects if you lose. You don’t “lose a life”, your partner doesn’t die with you, and you don’t have to start back at square one. Rather, you simply try again to beat your best high score, or play the level over again. It is a no risk situation, albeit a virtual one.

Casual Games also fit our culture’s “Disposal” Mentality. As minimal investment is put into these games ($.99 or even Free) There is no stress in the “what if I don’t like it?!” mindset. Since the games are easily beatable, there isn’t a lot of time spent replaying levels once you reach a certain score point. This minimal time investment, rewarded with a high level success rate, lends a positive mental association with the game. Not because anything of value was really accomplished, but a feeling of accomplishment was given through the game.

The main reason though I believe people love Angry Birds so much is not because it is cheap, easy, or quick to play. People love Angry Birds because it provides and escape. Just like any other video game out there. It allows people, even if it is for a few minutes, to step outside the real world, and feel like they have accomplished something of worth through this game. That accomplishment comes quickly, and easily, which makes a person feel good. It can also lead to addiction, which I have seen, and am sure you have seen as well.

So where am I going with this?

One reaction I commonly hear when thinking out loud about this topic, is the question “So are you saying we shouldn’t play Angry birds?” So I’ll answer that query, as I bet some of you are thinking that. ;) Casual Games like Angry birds and the like can be a great source of fun, and cultural connection points to start larger conversations. So no, I don’t think it is wrong to play casual games at all.

I will say we do need to be cautious and intentional when playing those games. It is so easy to use these games as an escape of life, and to use it for comfort. That, I do believe is wrong. When our provisions of comfort, security, and sanity come from anything other than Christ, we have an idol. And while that game may provide help for a time, it is going to fade. Christ is the only thing which can provide a peace that passes all understanding for eternity, not a .99 cent game.

I Was Just Joking! (Said the Fool)

I'm just joking

Ever hear that one before?

Some guy or gal pulls a joke out of midair which is inappropriate, crude, derogatory,  or otherwise awkward in the situation with your friends. Then, you muster up some bravery and call them on it. Then we hear them say

“Aw, I was just joking! You need to lighten up and stop taking things so seriously!”

Then, usually in front of a crowd, you are shamed and viewed as the one who can’t take a joke. You’ve been there, I’ve been there… Anyone who has stood for what is right has been there. It is frustrating to no end, especially among trusted peers to see a joke take precedent over what is honorable, lovely, pure, etc… all those things found in Philippians 4:8. Why? Because of course, it is “Just a Joke”. Harmless, meaningless, or just for fun. I’ve heard that one a lot too, and am guilty of this myself…

“Oh, I just do it for fun. It doesn’t really mean anything.”

We are called, according to scripture, to do everything in the name of Christ.

 “Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31

Every word we say, every song we listen to, every movie we watch, and every joke we make. I’m by no means saying I’ve got it all figured out, because I fail in this area at times too. The point is to be thinking. Thinking and constantly asking “Am I doing this for Christ?“. There is no middle ground or just for fun things in this world. Either is is for Christ, or it is for self. Neutrality is not an option.

When someone says “I’m just joking”, these verses comes to mind.

Like a foolish madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death, Is the man who deceives his neighbor, And says, “I was only joking!” ~Proverbs 26: 18-19~

Be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma. But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. ~Ephesians 5:1-4~

Now don’t get me wrong, I am all for humour and good jokes. God gave us the gift humour, being able to laugh, and the ability to use speech in a manner which is funny and glorifying to Him. I am all for making a person laugh, and laughing at a funny person, but not at the expense of God’s glory and honor. That’s where we, as Christians have to draw the line and go “Not funny dude, that was not uplifting.

And in application to self, which is the most important, this has been working well for me- When I say “Just joking” or “It is just for fun.” I have been adding this little bit to the end in my head “Said the fool.” Because according to proverbs, when we do joke like that, we are acting as fools, not imitators as Christ.

So what are your thoughts? Have you experienced this? Do you suffer from this like I do? Comment below and let me know what you think. :)